How I Release What I've Been Carrying

On my kitchen table right now, there's a piece of paper folded in half, and a box of matches next to it. By the end of this video, I'll tell you why. And you might want to do the same thing tonight. I'm Fernanda. I've been an energy healer for over twenty years, and releasing what people carry is most of what I do in my room. So today, I'll walk you through exactly how I release what I've been carrying, in the order I always use with my clients. And at the end, there's a two-minute practice for your chair, right now. One thing first. This is a complementary practice. It sits alongside your doctor, never instead of them.

For me, the diagnosis is almost always the same. People carry too much, and they release too little. They accumulate all that energy, all those feelings, all the experiences they didn't manage. It doesn't disappear on its own. It goes into the body. For some people, that becomes pain in the shoulders and tense muscles. For others, it's a tight chest, headaches, or a lower back that never quite settles. Call it energy, if that word works for you. Call it tension, if it doesn't. Somewhere between my definition and yours, it's the same weight. It settles in the body, and everyone carries it somewhere different. So I never tell my clients where. I ask them to notice. That's the first step. Not fixing anything yet. Just noticing where the heaviness sits. Reconnecting with nature helps too. It brings you back into your body, so you can actually feel where the heaviness sits.

So here's the order I use, every single time. First, notice where the heaviness sits. Then hold that feeling for a little bit. Don't rush to push it away. There's no reward for skipping this part. Feel it with all your cells. Really feel it. Don't only think about it. Then accept it. That's the hardest part for most people, and the most important one. And only then, with the breath, you let it go. At one point, we do have to accept what is happening, and let go.

Naming it helps. So say it out loud, if you can. Out loud works because someone, even if it's only you in an empty room, has finally heard it. Or write it down and burn it. Some of my clients keep a journal instead, and write it there. It doesn't matter which one you choose. Naming it out loud helps your brain process it, the same way as burning it down, or writing it in a journal. That's why there's a piece of paper on my table. Tonight, I'm writing down one thing I've been carrying, and I'm going to burn it.

So where does it actually go. Not nowhere. Into the ground. The earth has held mountains for millions and millions of years. Your Tuesday is not too heavy for it. I say that to my clients often, especially the ones who feel like they're too much. For me, we came from the earth, the minerals, the water. We carry that history inside our bodies, millions of years of it, and most days we don't even realize it. So when we reconnect with earth, we are able to release what doesn't serve us anymore. Hand it over. Down your arms, out of your palms, into the ground. Ask Mother Earth to look after it. In over twenty years, I've never seen anyone pick it back up.

Here's what I notice in my room, almost every week. The tears come. Sometimes right in the middle of a session, sometimes after, in the car on the way home. And in all that time, nobody has ever come back and told me they were sorry they let it out. By the time they leave, their breathing has slowed, and the whole room feels different. People carry too much, and they release too little. So when it finally moves, of course there are tears.

Let's do a small version of this right now, in your chair, if you have two minutes. Put both feet on the floor if you can, and feel the chair underneath you. Sit back. Let the chair hold you, the same way it holds you at the end of a long day. Take a breath in. And breathe out longer than it came in, like the tide going out. Now, silently, name one thing you've been carrying. Just one. Put your hand on your leg, or the table, or the ground, if you're sitting outside. Feel it with all your cells. Hold it a little longer. Accept it. Now breathe out, long and slow, and hand it over. Down your arm, out of your palm, into whatever is under your hand. That's it. When you stand up, walk away without picking it back up. You don't have to do this perfectly. There's no right or wrong way to release.

Notice what feels different in your body right now, compared to when this video started. Notice how much lighter that one thing feels, now that it isn't only yours to carry. That's the whole practice. Notice it. Feel it. Accept it. Let it go. If you'd like to go deeper, I've put together my ten-day journey. It's called The Nature Reset, and one whole day is about release, with the same practice, just longer. The link is below. And there's a link to book a gentle session too. In person in the Lower Mainland, or from anywhere. People carry too much, and they release too little. Today, you carried one thing less. I'm Fernanda. Come as you are.